16 April, 2013

I have something to tell you.

 
Hello!  How are you?  Me, I'm good, really good!  You may have noticed (or not but that's ok) that I haven't really been here at my blog this year but I have a reason, so let me tell you why.
... but before I go any further, this blog post contains a discussion of a sensitive nature, and if you are offended by such things, please do not read on.

Well, deep breath in, it's because I'm pregnant!  Yeah, that's right, I said pregnant!  Phew, it feels so good to be actually able to say those words, you see for the last 5 weeks or so - things were iffy, things were on hold, I was even trying not to remember that I was pregnant (don't worry, I will explain).

So let's start with the basics - I am pregnant with my second child, the baby is due in late September and we are totally happy about it - my son Joe says he has a baby in his tummy too!  I spent the first three months with nausea 24/7 - yep, I was sick all the time, miserable and unhappy and I had a 2yo toddler to deal with too - not a fun time but then the morning sickness eased and then came the 'lava lungs' aka heartburn, indigestion etc.
Ok, so then lets get to the tricky bit, the bit where I wished I wasn't pregnant at all.
Well, firstly let's start with my age, I'm 38 and with that age comes almost fear in the medical profession of "there is more risk, more complications - you should have gotten pregnant when you were younger etc etc"  .. my response, well, you can guess that response! 

Anyway, because of my age I had to have extra tests, that's ok, I had them with Joe too so I was expecting them. What I wasn't expecting was the results of the testing to come back with something nasty, it said that the baby was high risk for something awful, something fatal. Ugh. Not good.
They then told me that I could go in & have a test the following week to see if the baby truly was sick but there was a risk of miscarriage. Well, I didn't want to put the baby at risk, I wanted to give it a chance. So we waited. We waited for an extra four weeks to then be able to do another test, a safer test to see if the baby was sick or not.  

Now you see, we were given two options, the first option in finding out early means that if the test was positive then we would have had it terminated & it would have been a standard termination (ultimately, easier on my body).  The second test was safe for the baby but if the test had been positive then the termination would have been harder on my body - meaning that I would have been put into second trimester early labour to deliver the foetus.  Now, before you get all uppity if you are anti-abortion, please remember that this is my life, MY CHOICES.
Sorry to get so testy, it's just that lately there is a lot of abortion protest down here in Tasmania at the moment and it is coming at a time when this may have been a possibility for us and it is NOT an easy decision for anyone involved.   

Anyway, I think I have digressed, what I am saying is that after that long 5weeks of waiting... the testing results came back last week as negative ie... the baby is healthy and this pregnancy is a GO!!  Yay, I am having a baby!  

20 comments:

  1. Thank you for telling us your problems and I wish you and your baby the very best!!!

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  2. Hooray! Congratulations Rie! How wonderful. I'm so sorry to hear about all you had to go through though. It sounds so difficult and stressful. Others who haven't been in the same situation can't fairly judge. My husband and I discussed what we would do if we found there was a problem at one of the scans and we realised that we really would't be able to definitely say either way unless we were actually in that position.

    Hopefully you can just enjoy the rest of the pregnancy now, and your time with Joe, before your new little one arrives. You will fall in further in love with Joe when you see him being a big brother.

    xx

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  3. Rie, can only wish you and all your family every happiness with this news. Keep well. Keep safe.

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  4. Congratulations! Wishing you and baby the very best!

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  5. congratulations, it must have been a very testing time. time to enjoy now. x x x

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  6. Congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope things are smooth sailing from here and you can enjoy this pregnancy with no more worry or sickness.

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  7. Thank you for sharing your wonderful news. I can't imagine how hard this as been for you and your family. Christine

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  8. congrats! my niece had 2 in her late 30th and they were fine smart and healthy. one is 7 now and the other is 4

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  9. I'm so happy that you have been spared having to endure that kind of pain, but I'm sorry for the trials you have gone through. I hope that the rest of your pregnancy is smooth sailing and that this sweet little child will bring you joy after joy!

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  10. I'm happy to hear your baby is healthy! Congratulations!

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  11. There truly is a rainbow after the storm, congratulations to the entire family!

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  12. Congratualtions Rie! That's brilliant news.

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  13. What wonderful news! Thank you for sharing your families struggles through the first trimester. I pray everyday for your family and a healthy baby so I am so excited for you my friend! Yipee!

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  14. Congrats, I am getting a new Gandbaby in Dec too. yes Gand, not grand, because I am Gandma, well the little ones say Dammaw? hope that one doesnt stick.

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  15. Congratulations. A new baby is always good news, no matter what.

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  16. I'm so pleased for you and your family. It must have been a really scary time. My brother and his wife have had a really hard time conceiving and when they managed to finally get a pregnancy to stick after losing 7 pregnancies in the first 12 weeks we were all so relieved. That early stage when you can't really tell anyone when you are so hopeful and so scared too, must be dreadful. I haven't been there myself but I have watched my brother and his wife do it so I have some idea how hard it must have been for you all. I'm so happy you have come out the other side relatively intact!

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  17. congratulations!

    I can't stand anti-abortionists, they need to get their noses back in their own business. I'm happy for you that the abortion wasn't necessary though!

    I'm in my mid-30s and doesn't look like I'll be having a baby for the next couple of years, so I dread to think what they'll say to me!

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  18. wonderful news rie, hope the rest of your pregnancy is smooth. big hugs x
    will send you an email

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  19. I am sooo glad everything is proving to be fine now..all the best throughout the coming months!

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